.. gns and yet be suicidal. ?Others may show all these sign and not be suicidal. In many cases, the victim would choose differently if they were not in such great distress and were able to evaluate their options objectively¦(Stoney). Depression is like a bad dream, but with help, a person can overcome this ?bad dream¦ and awake. The start of what leads a person to suicide does not have anything to do with the person-s present life experiences, but with their early childhood experiences. ?Traumatic or difficult birth experiences put certain people at a much higher risk for suicide¦ (Dolce 33).
?Scientific studies indicate that babies who suffer respiratory difficulty during or shortly after birth may be more prone to suicidal tendencies late in life¦ (Dolce 36). This is because the view of others, outside family and friends, has no contribution to the pain that causes suicide and depression. Depression can include: self-pity, shame, envy, and grandiosity. All of these things play a role in depression one way or another. Depressed people are usually subjects to desire and ?grandiose ideation¦.
Some psychologist suggest that depression and grandiosity are in some ways, mirrors of each other, both being types of ?narcissistic disturbance¦ (Conroy 104). Grandiosity is best described as when a person starts thinking they are above everyone and everything else. They absurdly exaggerate many things in their lives just for the attention it brings them. Envy, another cause of depression, has two aspects. In its primary sense, ?envy is the experience of pleasure, when the person who has that desired quality suffers misfortune¦.
(Conroy 85) Shame, in depression, is usually aimed inward toward the victim, or depressed person. The feeling of, ?why did I not do that?¦ or ?why did I not take that chance?¦ rather than having pity for other people-s mistake or misfortune. When self-pity, another depression mode, is thought of, it usually brings up the feeling of being sad or angry for mistakes that have happened in the past. David L. Conroy gives a better example of self-pity by saying, ?Our recognition of our own suffering is much more vivid than our appreciation for the suffering of others (99).
Shortly before an attempt at suicide is made, a note may be written. ?Eaton and Reynolds found that adolescent attempt suicides were less likely to leave a suicide note than adult attempters¦ (Lester 261). This article is refereed to as a suicide note. It is one of the only things that can be examined after the attempt or ?completed¦ suicide to help the friends and families determine what the victim was thinking and/or feeling at the time. Here is a letter that has most of the depression characteristics discussed earlier: It is hard to say why you don-t want to live. I have only one real reason.
The three people I have in the world which I love, don-t love me. Tom, I love you so dearly, but you have told me you don-t want me and you don-t love me. I never thought you would let me go this far, but I am now at the end which is the best for you. You have so many problems and I am sorry I added to them. Daddy, I hurt you so much and I guess I really hurt myself.
You only wanted the best for me and you must believe this is it. Mommy, you tried so hard to make me happy and to make things right for all of us. I love you too, so much. You did not fail. I have no place to go so I am back where I always seem to find peace.
I have failed in everything I have done and I hope I do not fail in this. I love you all dearly and am sorry this is the way to say good bye. Please forgive me and be happy. Your wife and daughter (Lester 79). When looking at and examining at suicide note, there are severals factors to look for.
One of the factors might be that the victim is faced with depressing problems that are extremely hard to deal With. His situation is viewed as long history of similar crisis. He believes that death is the only way to escape the problems in his life. The victim usually becomes socially isolated, so isolated that the distress cannot be shared with others. The victim must also overcome the belief that suicide is not irrrational or immoral.
The victim feels less constrained by social rules. He feels that the problem is not of his own making, and there is not other solution. He makes a statement that his problems will not occur after death (Lester 78). The following are illustrations of people who failed committing suicide because it is not easy as the Hollywood movies make it seem. 1. Tom, a teenage boy, put a .22 pistol to his head and pulled the trigger.
The bullet entered his temple, ripped through his brain, ricocheted around in his skull, and lodged in his jaw. He did not die. Now severely brain-damaged, he lives on, unable to work or go to school. 2. Marry jumped from a high bridge into a river, many people have died making this same jump.
Marry did not. Rather, she entered the water at a bad angle and broke her back. She was rescued before she could drown. Marry lives in a wheelchair. 3. George shot himself with a large-caliber pistol in the stomach.
He destroyed a kidney. Fortunately, he had two. 4. Bryan, arrested on a drug charge and fearful of his parents reaction. Attempted to hang him self and loosing consciousness.
The loss of oxygen to his brain caused permanent brain damage. 5. Janice cut her wrists-sideways. One of the cuts ran deep enough to sever a tendon. Janice used to play piano. She still does but not so swell (Quinnet 118).
A good assumption to make about suicide attempts would be, the more lethal method a person uses, the more their body will be disfigured if their attempt fails. This not a major concern of the victim, but causes untold grief to those left behind to care of what is left of that person. Here are several reasons why suicide should not be an option. One, funerals are expensive, two, the Mr. Rogers way of thinking, people can like me just the way I am.
There are many signs and reasons people commit and attempt suicide. They are usually in extreme emotional pain. They do no see another way out of their problems. These victims of emotions running rampant need lots of love and understanding. But what they need most is someone to really listen to them and tell them, I do not want you to die.